Why Do Looks Matter?
This is a concept that I have yet to understand. Why do we glorify a person’s outward appearance as being one of their most important characteristics?
For me – and I’m positive you can relate – I get hit on sometimes by creepy men (also some not-so-creepy, but that’s a rare occurrence). And it’s not like I despise men, but I do hate getting hit on. You may expect this to be a feminist rant about the equality of sexes, but actually this will be delving in farther than gender.
Why I Hate Getting Hit-On
My personality, perspectives, morals, and beliefs have been built throughout my experiences, interactions with others, and my choices. These characteristics are evolving constantly as I become the person I choose to be. I have worked hard to study, to learn, and to grow in my thinking and actions. And I continue to do so every day. I am always working to reach my goals – goals that I have set for myself.
I have had control over the person I become on the inside, and I am proud of who I am. However, I had no control whatsoever in my genes and my biology. I did nothing to create my looks. Yes, I like to present myself in a fashionable way and I love style, but I did nothing to choose this face, this skin, or this body. I played no part in that. I don’t want to be appreciated for the outward appearance that I had no influence on. Yes, it’s nice to be called “pretty”, but I’d much rather be complimented on my efforts to become myself. I’d rather be complimented on my personality, my knowledge, or my interesting ways of thinking.
What Really Makes a Person?
People are not their outward appearance. People are who they are on the inside.
The things you’ve done, the places you’ve been, the things you love, the things you dislike, the way you think, the way you act, the way you choose to see the world – that has made you who you are. Even the smallest pieces of your mind are more important than your appearance. You have had no control over your body. Your body is simply a protective shell for your soul – the thing that really matters. But you have undeniably had an impact on the constructing of your soul itself. You are you because you have helped to create yourself. Not because you were born with this hair color or that eye color. That was not in your control, but the person you truly are is. And that’s what matters. You can choose to define yourself and your world however you please. That is what makes you the intriguing and beautiful creature you are.